As You Get Married

To our darling Boy:
I remember you as you were. Now I see you as you are. A beautiful, kind, generous, and thoughtful individual. Strong and caring. Frustrated by injustice, you have always fought for what you believed was right. Zealous in nature, yet caring and compassionate.
We are so proud that you have chosen someone whom you trust enough to spend the rest of your life with. That reason alone would be enough to get us to love her.

As you approach your wedding, a few words of encouragement for you from us:
Do not expect perfection, and you will not be surprised. All good things take time and work, but with these on your side you can achieve your version of perfection.
Ignore other peoples’ judgement. Rather follow your heart, for it will never betray you. Appreciate your wife for all that she is and all that she isn’t – she is the partner that you have chosen to live your dream and build your future with. Do not vent frustration at her that deserves to be vented elsewhere. Listen when she talks, because you never know when what she is saying may be important to her. Give her the space and freedom to develop as a person, and as a wife. Expect to make mistakes. Forgive yourself when you do. Hold tightly to your beliefs, because they will guide you through more than you can imagine. Learn to say sorry. Learn to fight properly – do not be hurtful. Remember to discuss the problem or the situation, and not attack the person that you love.
Above all, have fun. Marriage is a beautiful adventure, filled with joy and giggles.

To the newest member of the family:
We are so excited to finally be able to have you as an official member of our family! We believe that you will make an awesome wife, and one day, a beautiful mother. As you enter into this new phase of your relationship, remember to be kind to each other, and understand that your new role may make you uncomfortable and times. Be gentle with yourself, as all the best things in life take time. Enjoy making your new home. Cook – it can really be a labour of love, even if you burn a few pots and pans along the way. Remember to maintain your beautiful sense of humour in your marriage; there are very few situations that you won’t be able to look back on one day and laugh at. Be affectionate with each other. There is nothing like a warm hug or snuggle to lift the spirits. Be considerate towards each other. Work together as a team, and you will be amazed at what you can achieve together. Do not compare your marriage to others. All of them are unique, and only the two of you will know what will make it work for you. Remember that the best of all material things will do nothing to salvage a bad marriage. Don’t get into a knot about being a perfect wife, as they don’t exist in reality. Be yourself, the same woman he fell in love with, and all the rest will fall in to place.
And yes, above all, have fun! Marriage is a beautiful adventure, filled with joy and giggles.